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This story, attributed to Jewish-Austrian philosopher Martin Buber, (“Tales of the Hasidim”),  is making the rounds on FB.  As one commenter noted, Buber’s tale is a convoluted way of admitting that the concept of a divine deity should be unnecessary….

 ( Buber story post; my emphases )
A rabbi was asked by one of his students “Why did God create atheists?” After a long pause, the rabbi finally responded with a soft but sincere voice. “God created atheists,” he said, “to teach us the most important lesson of them all – the lesson of true compassion.

You see, when an atheist performs an act of charity, visits someone who is sick, helps someone in need, and cares for the world, he is not doing so because of some religious teaching. He does not believe that God commanded him to perform this act. In fact, he does not believe in God at all, so his actions are based on his sense of morality. Look at the kindness he bestows on others simply because he feels it to be right.

When someone reaches out to you for help. You should never say ‘I’ll pray that God will help you.’ Instead, for that moment, you should become an atheist – imagine there is no God who could help, and say ‘I will help you’.”

 

 

For that moment?  No; You should “become an atheist”   [1]  for all the moments when you have helped other people; for all the times when other people help people, without “miraculous”/deistic intervention, which is – no matter what you have been taught to think, is you, a person, acting, not your god – always. Always.

How’s about y’all who are religious just skip the middle layer of bureaucracy and leave out the unnecessary and functionally impotent deity – whom you believe parted the Red Sea and performed other “miracles” but who can’t mow your neighbor Fred’s lawn when Fred is recovering from chemotherapy, and so you do it?

 

 

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Department Of Wholesome Family Games Night
Wheel of Fortune, Public Service Edition

 

“I’d like to solve the puzzle.”

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Department Of You Know You Need This
Sub-Department Of, Only 129 nicknames for the Tangerine Terrorist?

Select goodies from the website, 129 Insulting tR***   [2]  Nicknames You Must Know— Choose Your Favorite!

Cheeto Satan
Trumpoleon
The Incontinental Divider
Vladdy’s Boy
Mango Mussolini
Our Fondling Father
Tsar Trumplingrad
Sweet Potato Hitler
Pumpkin Spiced Stalin
Kim Don Un
President Donald McDonald’s
The Lyin’ King
Don the Con
Cheetolini

Comedian and late night talk show host Jimmy Kimmel also weighed in with his and his writers’ collection:Don Whoreleon

Napoleon Bone-Aspur
Nostra-Dumbass
All Caps-Tain Kangaroo
Founding Farter
Teddy Dozevelt
Gaseous Clay
Dopey McGropey
Lepre-Con Man
Al Ca-Porn
The Shart of the Deal
Nelson Tandela
Greedy McGolfy
Yabba Dabba Doofus
His MAGA-Sty
Donald Duck the Draft
The Notorious P.I.G.
Hair Mussolini
Con-Mander-In-Chief
Phony Soprano
The Ayatollah Complaini
Presidementia
Stable McGenius
The Tanchurian Candidate
Tannibal Lecter
Scammy Davis Jr.
The MAGA-Lorian
Vladimir Gluten
HippoPOTUS
Darth Tax Evader
The Tan of La Mancha
MAGATHA Christie
Grab-Ass Grandpa
Orange Julius Caesar
Dictator Tot
Quid Pro Combover
The Lock-Her-Up-Ness Monster
General Lie-Senhower
Alexander Scamilton
Jabba The Pizza Hut
and Pumpkin McPornhumper

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Department Of Meet Your Brain
 Part 391 in A Never-Ending Series

We neurological layfolk – as well as the writers of popular psychology/medicine articles – tend to separate realms when we talk about how the human brain (supposedly) functions.  We speak and write about some people who have great cognitive skills and people who are stronger with emotional skills ( using terms like IQ and EQ, for example ), often in binary or at least separate terms. Let’s all stop doing that, right now.

 

 

Yes; really.  Bonk yourself on the head if you find yourself doing that.   [3]

“I think our traditional Western philosophies too often separate cognition and emotion; we think that there are cognitive skills and that there are emotional skills…and that maybe those two things impact on each other, right?  But actually, that’s the wrong way to think about it.

They are two differ dimensions of the same thing.  Thinking is inherently cognitive and emotional, *always,* at the same time.  And we can look at thinking from a cognitive lens and analyze the cognitive dimensions of what’s going on – and it’s important to do that – and we can look at thinking from an affective lens, and analyze the emotional engagement that’s going on, but actually both of those things are simultaneously happening, in an integrative way, *always*, when people are alive – when they’re moving through the world, adapting and engaging with things around them.”

(  Mary Helen Immordino-Yang, USC professor of neuroscience; director
of the Center for Affective Neuroscience, Development, Learning and Education.
Excerpt from her interview on the Hidden Brain podcast, “How Our Brains Learn.” )

 

 

 

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Depart Of WTF Is Going On
Sub-Department Of A Writer’s Life

Chapter 952 In The Never-Ending Series, The Rights To Which
Have Yet To Be Optioned For A Major Motion Picture ®

After years of the proverbial radio silence since my juvenile novel  The Mighty Quinn went out of print, in the past couple of weeks moiself  has received several complimentary emails from who-the-heck-are-these-people  who  apparently   [4]  want to show me how they can maximize my book sales and impact my presence on social media, ad nauseum ad scam-eum, etc.  One example:

From: redacted <redacted@gmail.com>
Sent: Tuesday, August 19, 2025 7:42 AM
To: ( moiself’s  main email address    [5]  )
Subject: The Mighty Quinn

Dear Robyn Parnell,
“The Mighty Quinn is a delightful mix of humor, heart, and clever storytelling. Quinn’s journey through school struggles, bullies, and unexpected friendships is both relatable and entertaining. The way you balance lighthearted moments with real challenges makes this story shine for young readers and adults alike. Katie DeYoe’s illustrations   [6]  also add a wonderful layer that brings Quinn’s world vividly to life. I’d love to hear what inspired you to create Quinn’s character and the whimsical yet meaningful adventures he experiences.”

Moiself’s  reply:
Dear Mr. Redacted,
Who are you and what are you selling?

Here is my favorite one (so far).
The e
mail’s subject line: “Show Don’t Tell – The Ultimate Writers’ Guide

“Hi Robyn, your guide feels like a true gift to writers at every stage. By breaking down ‘show, don’t tell’ into practical, achievable steps with clear examples, you demystify one of the most essential and misunderstood craft elements. What drew you to make this guide so hands-on, with exercises that invite writers to immediately apply what they learn?”

 

 

Spoiler:  I have written no such guide.

Nor do I ever recommend that one-dimensional sop – show; don’t tell – which unfortunately passes as classical (and simplistic and therefore bad, IMO) advice.   Show and tell; good writing does both.

What’s going on?  Can I blame AI for this?

 

 

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Department Of The Sensitivity Of Things

The Sensitivity of Things – Mono no Aware 物の哀れ   – is variously described as an awareness for the fragility of the existence, of life in all forms, and appreciation for its beauty while acknowledging the gentle sadness of its passing.  Moiself  had heard of the concept in passing,  then recently it was the subject of one of my Calm app morning meditations.

“It’s natural to seek a sense of stability and forever-ness.  Change and uncertainty can feel stressful and scary.  To recognize that everything that begins is to acknowledge our mortality, which isn’t a warm and fuzzy prospect.  But there’s great wisdom in the view that everything is changing and ephemeral.  Nothing is permanent.  Today, the tallest tree in the woods.  Tomorrow, a log of carbon lying on the forest floor.  Today, a massive glowing star; tomorrow, a disparate cloud of cooling elements.

 


 Webb Space Telescope images

 

It’s understandable to fear change, but there’s so much to be gained by accepting impermanence, rolling with it, even seeing the beauty in it.  For it’s only because life ends that our years on this earth are so precious.  Only because of the harsh winds of winter that we drink up every sun-drenched moment of summer.

Mindfulness encourages us to see that it’s not the nature of impermanence that causes us to suffer, it’s our desire for things to be permanent that causes us to suffer.  By accepting impermanence, we open to reality and find deeper fulfillment in our lives.

There’s a wonderful Japanese term, for which there isn’t a precise English translation – a term, mono no aware, loosely means a sensitivity to ephemera.   The bittersweet feeling of seeing things change is the wistful awareness of the transitory nature of existence.

Since everything we see all around us will one day be gone ,we must appreciate every millisecond.  According to this idea, cheery blossoms are not only beautiful despite only blossoming for two weeks a year, they are beautiful *because* they only blossom for two weeks once a year. 

As Jack Kornfield     [7]   said, ‘Like a sandcastle, all is temporary.
Build it.  Tend it.  Enjoy it.  And when the time comes, let it go.’ “

 

 

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Freethinkers’ Thought Of The Week     [8]

 


( Becky Vollmer )

 

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May you cultivate and appreciate a sensitivity to ephemera;
May you “act like an atheist” when someone needs help;
May you be reassured by the knowledge of the impermanence of the influence
of Genghis Don, and bask in the never-ending satisfaction achieved by
engaging in
petty derision of that Commander-In-Thief;

…and may the hijinks ensue.

Thanks for stopping by.  Au Vendredi!

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[1] Which is not actually a thing and there is no ism or credos to adopt – it’s just one term for being religion-free, which unfortunately defines you in terms of religion (a-theism – without theism).

[2] Moiself  cannot bear to have his unredacted name in my blog, even when quoting others.

[3] And note that you will experience the bonk in several realms, including the cognitive, emotional, and physical realms: ouch.

[4] They offer little-to-nothing in the way of identification and/or professional credentials.

[5] I have several.

[6] Actually, the illustrations were done by a wife-husband team, Katie De Yoe  and Aaron DeYoe. 

[7] American writer and teacher, who trained as a Buddhist monk in Thailand.

[8] “free-think-er n. A person who forms opinions about religion on the basis of reason, independently of tradition, authority, or established belief. Freethinkers include atheists, agnostics and rationalists.   No one can be a freethinker who demands conformity to a bible, creed, or messiah. To the freethinker, revelation and faith are invalid, and orthodoxy is no guarantee of truth.”  Definition courtesy of the Freedom From Religion Foundation, ffrf.org

The Country I’m Not Loving

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The horror; the horror.

After a restless sleep, after a 4:59 am checking of the headlines, I keep hearing dying words of Kurtz from  The Heart of Darkness.  I am feeling the despair which comes from the realization that the civilized shell of human behavior is just that – a shell, which thinly and ineffectively cloaks our capacity for barbarism.

Anguished thoughts, racing through my brain.  I am filled with rage…and also, with nothing.  Hollow, and numb.  Is this what being in shock feels like? 

 

 

Tuesday night I went to bed, determined not to check the election results (and believing that it might take days for the final counts to be tallied).  One of the meditation apps I have on my phone is called Calm, which moiself  needed more than ever this morning.  But it’s gonna take way more than an app to fix my feelings of isolation and dread, and visceral disgust with so many of my… I can’t bear to use the word “fellow”… Americans.

Too many Americans were willing to put aside any notions of personal integrity; Americans who, by their vote, condoned a candidate’s vile and bizarre behavior and hate-filled, despotic rhetoric; behavior and rhetoric which they would not tolerate from friends, family, and coworkers – indeed, they’d likely report it to the police or a psychiatric institution or both.  And for what reasons? What justifies making a literal deal with the devil?  Because they think it may benefit them personally, as in, financially?  Or is it the puerile, stick-it-to-“the man”/to the status quo?   [1]

 

 

There are no good answers to these questions.

I don’t know which is worse, hating the motivations of so many other Americans, or hating the fact that I am filled with loathing for so many other Americans.

I am trying to remember, as MH is reminding his distraught wife and daughter,    [2]   that the blue and red electoral maps do not accurately represent the votes.  The winner-take-all, electoral college debacle is one of the U.S. constitution’s (relatively) few but most pernicious evils.    [3]

My immediate circle is composed of rational, intelligent, long-term thinking, compassionate people.  I despair venturing out of this circle.  What do I say to those others?  How do I pretend not to seethe?  How do I handle the lip-curling revulsion that makes me want to spew,  You did this ?!?!?!?!??????      [4]

 

 

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Here is what I was going to write, earlier this week, when I thought we might not have the election results before my blog publication deadline:   [5]

Department Of Waiting For The You-Know-What Results
Sub Department Of If The Cheetos Mussolini Wins We Are All Fucked

We, all of us.  Even, and especially, those who think that their guy “won.”

Since as of this writing we don’t know the outcome for certain, here is a bit o’ my fears, if it comes to pass, of why Harris lost:

Dateline: 10-25, watching the first game of the Dodgers-Yankees World Series.  A MAGA ad came on between innings, the ad showing an edited interview between Harris and…(?), with Harris explaining an answer re whether a prisoner could have sex change/affirming surgery, which would of course be at taxpayer expense, if performed while they were imprisoned (Harris seemed to be fumbling – I have no idea of the context of the interview, and of course it was edited by and for the MAGA ad – but she answered yes.)  The ad’s voiceover went on to say how Harris

“…is for they/them, while tR___ is for *you.*

I loathe the use of wedge issues and exploitation of those on the lower end of the power totem to provoke the fear response.   I despise the fact that such tactics are often effective, which is why the ethically-deficient Right uses them.  And as I watched that ad, thinking of the wide audience it was playing to, I thought to moiself, re the election:  if Harris (and therefore the USA)    [6]   loses, it will be because of things like this.

 

 

Things  as in, not necessarily that particular issue, but because too many of my well-meaning liberal brethren and sisterthren have shot themselves in the foot with their psychological tone-deafness…and Those People ® who feel lectured to and put upon are exacting some kind of social revenge.

It’s the only theory moiself  can think of to explain (not to excuse – there is no excuse for voting such an openly vile and dangerous, totalitarian-doctrine-proclaiming creature into office) the behavior of someone who would vote for such a man.  Yes of course, it is a poor reflection upon human motivation and behavior, ( Here’s your machete, cut off your nose/spite your face ) but pay attention: there it is.

 

 

How many times have people (usually but not always from the lower economic and education strata) felt silenced or intimidated because they didn’t toe the “progressive” political and cultural lines?  Maybe they have questions on certain social issues; maybe there are things they just don’t understand and therefore, instinctively, tend to fear. 

Maybe they don’t actually *hate* people of different genders and sexual orientations and ethnicities and religions and social classes and political opinions.  But that’s what they get labeled as (  haters; ____ -phobics ), and then they don’t feel as if they can even voice their questions and concerns in certain situations and when speaking with certain people, because if they don’t use the *correct* terminology of the moment, the focus will be on *how* they asked their questions/offered their opinions, rather than on the content of those questions and opinions.  They will be shamed and lectured to if they “misgender” or “dead-name” or “mis-pronoun;” they will be condescended to and corrected when they reference a person’s “race” or ethnicity and use the terms black and white instead of Black and White, or Latino/Latina instead of Latinx….   [7]

And if the actions and attitudes of aggressive Lefties pushes some centrists or moderates more to the Right, then those Lefties dismiss the migration with their purity-testing mantra:  “Well, it’s no loss, they weren’t really allies in the first place.”

Sadly, as our species has proven time and time again, humans are petty enough to have things like that serve as motivation:  Yeah, it’s possible that, maybe, ultimately, I will be voting against my own self-interest, but that is then…and this is NOW, and watching those self-righteous liberals squirm in the NOW will be worth it.

 

 

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Freethinkers’ Thought Of The Week     [8]

 

 

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May you call your allies in, and not out;
May you join me in hoping that Melania takes poisoning tips from Putin
nature takes care of this before Inauguration Day;
May…oh, what the bucket of slimy, festering herring farts do I know?
May we all, somehow, hang on….

…and, some day, may the hijinks ensue.

Thanks for stopping by.  Au Vendredi!

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[1] Daughter Belle notes that a large amount of people in her age group refused to vote for Harris, “…because both her and Biden have been refusing to stop assisting/arming Israel, let alone acknowledge that they are actively committing genocide in Gaza.” She also speculates that which I have heard from/about other young(er) people, that they have no faith in the Democratic party, as they anticipate that the Democratic leadership is going to look at this and think that they need to swing even further center/right to win votes from the Republican side, when one of the big the reasons Dems are losing is because they’re swinging center and leftists are rightfully losing faith in them and either refusing to vote, or protest voting for ridiculous 3rd parties.

[2] Commiserating on our family chat site; we have yet to hear from son K, whom I imagine is as angry and confused as the rest of us.

[3] And, more happy news, here is someisappointing historical information about Senator Joe Biden’s complicity in this http://www.wnycstudios.org/story/the-unpopular-vote/

[4] No footnote here, except to pause to utter the kind of curses that would knock a buzzard off a shitwagon.

[5] There will be no Friday blog post this week.  Because…This.

[6] And the rest of the world – no one wins when a hateful, megalomaniacal, racist and sexist ignoramus holds power.

[7] Despite the fact that the majority of Latinos do *not* use Latinx, and are even bothered and/or offended by that label of generalization.

[8] “free-think-er n. A person who forms opinions about religion on the basis of reason, independently of tradition, authority, or established belief. Freethinkers include atheists, agnostics and rationalists.  No one can be a freethinker who demands conformity to a bible, creed, or messiah. To the freethinker, revelation and faith are invalid, and orthodoxy is no guarantee of truth.”  Definition courtesy of the Freedom From Religion Foundation, ffrf.org